Comments on: Christmas Disaster

By: gartenfische

gartenfische — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 07:49:46 +0000

Sorry about the meme. Since you did mention that you didn’t like this time of year, I should’ve guessed you wouldn’t want to meme about it.

Yeah, make it your own thing. It doesn’t have to be about your childhood now. Have fun with the baking and decorating!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 20:57:14 +0000

Wow, can I relate! But you know, you’re right, we’re adults now and can break the pattern if we so choose. It’ll be a battle to go against the flow of what we were taught when we were young, and to keep our decision to change at the forefront of our minds. But, you know, I have this deep intuitive feeling that it’ll all be worth it in the end.

You ARE a warrior. Keep your chin up, hon.

(p.s. You know, Tollhouse makes cookie dough pre-prepared so all you have to do is plop those yummy cookies on a baking pan and turn on the oven. *as you can see, I’m not much of a cook either, but I can sure brew a good cup-o’ joe)

*hugs*

By: Mary (MPJ)

Mary (MPJ) — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 18:25:32 +0000

My husband and I were in bed crying last Christmas Eve. And we realized that Christmas is so hyped, there’s so much mythology, so much fantasy, that the best one can even hope for is to meet expectations — and just meeting expectations is impossible. So Christmas is always going to be something of a disappointment. We felt better when we reset our outlook.

By: Maddy

Maddy — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 17:50:41 +0000

Likewise. It’s only when I admitted ‘defeat’ as in, we can’t do this like everyone else, that we sorted out our own pathway – very low key.
Best wishes

By: donutszenmom

donutszenmom — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 16:14:06 +0000

I was haunted for years (and perhaps still am, a bit) by my Mom’s holiday Hallmark expectations and resulting disappointments. Every holiday, every year. Argh.

You’re on the right track, though. Forget about whatever the “usual” measures of holiday “correctness” are and just navigate by whether you feel warm and supported.

One Easter, my daughter and I (I was a single Mom) had guacamole and pineapple and marshmallows for dinner. Her menu. She was so happy to get to plan the event. It was the best Easter ever.